Signature Humor

All of us have our own individual brand of humor.

In my case, I'm sometimes sarcastic, witty but mostly playful.

The important thing is you enjoy making yourself laugh. This in turn draws the girl/s to your reality and find it funny.

Plus the laughing dynamic is infectious. You continue to give value by being self-amusing and humorous.

The point is you should bring out YOUR OWN NATURAL sense of humor instead os saying things that you THINK she will find funny.

If it makes YOU laugh, that's simply it. It's your own brand.

Bring that out when interacting with women, in the field or wherever else.

It's authentic, attractive and unreactive.

Most guys try to spout routines or jokes that is not even jiving with THEM. Just to make women laugh.

Learn to entertain yourself and that is infinitely more attractive than anything else, ie, reaction seeking.

Bringing out your own flavor of humor is in NO WAY reaction seeking. It is expressive, value giving because it's coming from you, and ultimately authentic.

You are giving instead of seeking.

It's your signature. Be proud of it. Express what you find funny for yourself and watch them giggle at you being happy about it instead of the joke/funny anecdote itself.

Vocal Projection is An Asset Skill

I constantly rip on joseph on this since he has a mild mannered voice. Hehe

This will usually fix most guys problems.

A guy opens and the girls can't even hear him, well whaddaya expect? Blown out.

The club is a big noisy place. You can train your voice to cut through the noise and bass. It's important that the girls can hear you.

Of course this needs to be coupled with calibration. You don't want to be talking too loud all the time, there is a time for everything. You can even open like joseph and have it go through. Like "whispering" hehe. I open usually very mildly. But when it's loud I can even startle a group of dancing girls.

You don't wanna shout on day game of course lol. Just the right amount. Be heard, be confident.

The point of this principle is that most guys are shy and can't even speak clearly when talking to women. Learn to use your voice and be heard.

Yet another simple tweak and see how many guys don't realize it.

Being in Your Own Reality

Remember your last girlfriend. What happens when it begins to be all about her?

Right. It doesn't matter what the answer is, I'm just sure you won't like it.

So what does this principle mean?

You have your own interpretation of the world. Your own experiences, your own tastes, likes, dislikes, values and beliefs.

Being with other people requires interaction and understanding that other people have their own realities too. Learn to respect that and yet learn to hold your own.

Trust in your own eyes. Your own experience. And navigate well from there.

This principle simply means that YOU are the hero in your story. Not her or that girl.
Or that model girl, nor lady gaga.

Once you understand that, you begin to live in your own reality.

Positivity

Alright, I'm at home and chillaxin instead of the usual night out. Might as well drop a cool article of knowledge for you guys.

Most principles are a bit obvious yet most people don't see them or implement them.
One important thing to really internalize is being a generally positive person.

Are you expecting to be mega successful with women or with life by being a cynic? (Pun intended). Of course not. Unless you're a goth or something. :D

Positivity is an indicator of mental strength & resourcefulness. A quality that women respond to. If a guy is a good people person, I can easily say that he will be easily successful with women.

Nobody likes a cynic. We can all play devil's advocate and that is good sometimes but overall, being positive at least generally is a great great quality and will only add to your attractiveness.

You will be happier, more fun to be around and value giving. This also affects your results. It is the main indicator of future success in this area. Some guys go out and only remember the bad approaches. The guys who get better are the ones who focus on the positives of the night.

It doesn't mean that you're like "la-di-da I'm in disneyland" positive, it's just a good general outlook on life, yourself and other people, including women.

The game is basically a big self-fulfilling prophecy and being positive only puts you on a winning position.

Another simple concept yet when we start digging, many guys notice that this quality is lackluster in them.

Turn that vibe on. Enjoy the good things and deal with the bad with an unrelenting proactive outlook.

You will be surprised at what this can do to you and your results.

Be Non-Judgemental

LOL, I can't help but laugh. Guys want to be successful with women, yet when they see a guy being successful they say the women are "easy" or sl*ts.

Nothing could be more detrimental to your success.

I mean WTF bro.

You want to get women and eff them, yet you judge them when they have sex.

You better get your head straight.

I am a man. I know women have had sex before and it doesn't matter to me.

If you're looking for a virgin, go look for 16-18 year olds then alagaan mo/palakihin mo.

This is a very simple yet almost as invisible as a blind spot. Be honest with yourself and you shall realize your beliefs around women and sex.

Guys who get laid, and gets lots of women are totally non judgemental.

Speaking on behalf of the awesome population, we are "cool with it" so to speak. It's no big deal. For real.

Getting laid is only as exciting as watching a movie for me. :)

If it's a big deal for you, women know immediately. Trust me.

So remember never to be judgemental.

These judgements are carried over by the "self is coming through principle" and thus let the women know what kind of guy you are. Then dictates what happens next of course.

Very simple yet often totally overlooked.

Fix this part of your psychology and you're starting to get ahead of the pack.

Sticking to Your Sets

Yep. It's simple. Most guys eject a few minutes after opening to save themselves the hassle of further issues that may come up.

You'll never get good if all you know is to open. You must stay in set for as long as you can.

Stick to it. Activate the spiderman in you.
From there you'll see all the intricacies and mechanics of initial to fast rapport interaction.

The next time you open, stay there for as long as you can cause them to stay.

This is the start of your getting better if you consistently do this. Most guys are satisfied with opening and having a response. And feel good about it. They are afraid of risking the possibility of a shit test or a complication. Be brave and face the unknown. You will learn a damn lot more than when you just open and say bye.

This is a simple fix, yet most don't see the power of this principle.

Activate your inner spider man and stick to it. You'll see magic start happening.

Flow - The Secret of Peak Performance

Let's start the lesson by quoting from a movie - The Hustler:

"
Fast Eddie: Cause, ya see, twice, Sarah... once
at Ames with Minnesota Fats and then again at
Arthur's, in that cheap, crummy pool room, now
why'd I do it, Sarah? Why'd I do it? I coulda beat
that guy, coulda beat 'im cold, he never woulda
known. But I just hadda show 'im. Just hadda
show those creeps and those punks what the
game is like when it's great, when it's REALLY
great. You know, like anything can be great,
anything can be great. I don't care, BRICKLAYING
can be great, if a guy knows. If he knows what
he's doing and why and if he can make it come
off. When I'm goin', I mean, when I'm REALLY
goin' I feel like a... like a jockey must feel. He's
sittin' on his horse, he's got all that speed and
that power underneath him... he's comin' into
the stretch, the pressure's on 'im, and he
KNOWS... just feels... when to let it go and how
much. Cause he's got everything workin' for 'im:
timing, touch. It's a great feeling, boy, it's a real
great feeling when you're right and you KNOW
you're right. It's like all of a sudden I got oil in my
arm. The pool cue's part of me. You know, it's uh
- pool cue, it's got nerves in it. It's a piece of
wood, it's got nerves in it. Feel the roll of those
balls, you don't have to look, you just KNOW. You
make shots that nobody's ever made before. I
can play that game the way... NOBODY'S ever
played it before."

That's what's it like when you are flowing. When you are in state.

Think of something you do very well. There is a mental strategy for how you do it. And you just repeat it and repeat it until you don't think about it anymore.

That's the goal of learning new skills. Attaining:

Unconscious Competence

In NLP, there are four stages to learning. Just do a google search, I think most of you already know about this.

When you are flowing, unconscious competence is on high gear. You don't think about what you're doing. It just arises from you.

It's like you start to become something else. You become an intermediary.

"I am not the doer. This is happening through me."

If you know how to access flow, then you are the man. That's what makes Michael Jordan the best.

Tiger woods, Gary Kasparov, Anna Kournikova, Michael Schumacher.

These people practiced to the point of unconscious competence until it has consumed them. Until it has become them.

Of course it comes with a price. Massive massive patience. That's why only a few percentage of people really get good at anything. That is the real reason.

Marami cguro sa inyo ang nakabasa ng fliptop kalokohan ko sa ABYD. When I'm flowing I don't think about composing the lyrics. I just TYPE. It just arises out of me.

No effort.

That's the level you want to be on.

Flow and fly my bros.

You only need your patience and sharpening your mental strategies for learning this bros.

When your attention is IN THE MOMENT, like what baseball player's say, they can "see" the ball. At 120 mph. Activate that state.

I call this mode "eyes on fire."

All of us can flow. Our brains are made that way.

Be a peak performer. :) cheers